One of this summer’s a new movies is titled Friends With Benefits. The premise behind the romantic comedy is that two emotionally damaged people decide to have a sex-only relationship. The idea is that they will have a strictly physical relationship and avoid any emotional entanglement. One of those ideas that sounds better on paper than in practice.
The problem with a sex-only relationship is that is starts out physically but ends emotionally. The issue is our biology. Both sexes complicate so-called “sex-only” relationships, but a woman is more prone to becoming emotional, particularly if the sex is good. It’s rather ironic; if you have good sex, expect emotion. However, if you have bad sex, you are less at risk and can keep going. But than again what would be the point?
When a woman has an orgasm, her body releases oxytocin. Oxytocin is a hormone released during the contraction of the uterus, such as an orgasm, or as in childbirth. One of the effects this hormone has is bonding, a very important reaction after just giving birth. Not a very good side effect if you are trying to have meaningless sex. Therefore, once an orgasm occurs, emotions follow.
One of the definitions of benefit is something that promotes well-being. So, if you find yourself tempted by the idea of having meaningless sex with someone, ask yourself this question. Will this really be a benefit? Will this really promote genuine well-being?